About a year ago, about 25-30 twenty-somethings would come over to my tiny little apartment to eat a meal together, fellowship, and spend time in God’s Word. We started with four people: My wife, me, and another guy and gal. From its inception, however, the group grew very fast—both vertically and horizontally. They grew in their relationship with God through our weekly discussion of God’s Word (vertically) and closer to each other through our genuine and authentic fellowship with one another (horizontally). It was pretty fun to watch. At Foothills Church, this is the core of our philosophy of ministry. We want to make mature disciples of Christ in relational environments, and we do so through small groups meeting in homes all over our city each week.
I have many relationships with persons all over the world. Some are friends that I see or talk to only every once in a while; some are friends I see everyday; some are family members; some are lifelong friends; some are friends that I would consider best friends, or part of my inner circle, who I would share prayers with and seek out for counsel; still others are just acquaintances. My relationships are on many different levels, but none impact me more than the people with whom I would spend my Monday nights.
This, I believe, is because of the intentional gospel-centered focus of these relationships. We come together ultimately for one single purpose: to become more mature disciples of Jesus. I call these Monday-night relationships “Gospel-Centered Relationships.” As I said, I have differing levels of relationships with people all over the world and the gospel is the center of many of them. Yet I think the focus of a true Gospel-Centered Relationship should be upon its foundation: Gospel-Centered Community. As we look at what Gospel-Centered Relationships are, I want to focus on three things. Gospel-Centered Relationships should 1) reflect the Garden of Eden, 2) revolve around a well-developed understanding of the gospel, and 3) move continually toward a picture of what relationships will look like in the New Heavens and New Earth.
A Reflection of Eden
In Genesis 1-2, we have a glimpse into what all relationships were supposed to be like. Relationships were to be perfect. They were to revolve around direct communion with God, which led to perfect communion with one another. Adam and Eve’s relationship was without sin, and though it gives us a beautiful picture of what marriage is supposed to look like, it also has great implications for all types of relationships. In Genesis 1-2, we see gender roles established. We see the foundations of biblical manhood and womanhood played out in Adam and Eve’s relationship with one another. The man had dominion over all of creation (1:26-27). He was to work the ground (1:27). He was to work hard. Adam named the animals (2:20), continuing to show his dominion over God’s creation. He then named Eve when she was formed out of him (2:23). Eve was created to be a helper for Adam and Adam was to lead her well (2:20). The biblical mandate for marriage was then given (2:24), and they were both naked without any embarrassment, guilt, or shame (2:25). Again, there was as yet no sin in the story of redemptive history.
Genesis 3, however, portrays the fall of man into sin. Upon Adam and Eve’s disobedience and consumption of the fruit, the created order was fractured. The Garden of Eden, in all its perfection and beauty, was no longer perfect. Sin had entered the world. Everything was broken, including relationships.
Gospel-Centered Relationships reflect this truth under the reality that sin exists and all relationships, no matter the level of importance, are not as they are meant to be. They are meant to reflect the Garden of Eden in all of its purity and perfection. They are meant to reflect an Adam and Eve-type of relationship in which sin does not exist and direct communion with God (vertical) is the medium through which human relationships work perfectly (horizontal).
A proper understanding of sin also points to the fact that relationships are messy. When people live in community together it is no different. Actually, it magnifies our sin and our need for a Savior. This brings us to the nucleus of Gospel-Centered Relationships.
Gospel-Centrality
Again, living in true community together magnifies our need for a Savior. The beauty of the gospel is that it not only restores our relationship with our creator God but it restores our relationships with one another as well.
In John 13:34-46, Jesus says, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” Now that the grave is empty and Christ sits at the right hand of the Father, the way that the world will know us as a disciple of Christ is through our love for each other. The gospel is the core of living in community together. It brings sinful people into the family of God, it brings sinful people with all of their baggage into a redemptive community, it brings restoration and hope, it brings a true understanding and magnification of our sin, and it brings true fellowship and true purpose and true meaning to life.
New Creation Living
Finally, Gospel-Centered Relationships should reflect and point forward to the truth that Jesus is coming again. And he will not come empty-handed. He will come with a sword and completely defeat sin and death. He will come as Warrior King. Upon his coming, he will also bring with him a new city, the New Jerusalem (Revelation 21). In the New Heavens and New Earth, there will be no more sin and death and our relationships will be perfect. In a way, they will again be like the Garden of Eden was before sin entered the world. Indeed, it will be even better because Jesus will be the center of it all, and all of God’s purposes will be accomplished (Revelation 21:21-27; 1 Corinthians 15:24).
Gospel-Centered Relationships must reflect this truth. We were once broken and sinful and in need of a Savior (the Fall). Christ has redeemed us by his blood (Redemption). This points us toward how we should now live (New Creation). This is “new creation living.” Our relationships should reflect the way relationships will be in the New Heavens and New Earth.
Every tribe, tongue, and nation will live in community together under the eternal reign of King Jesus. Therefore, our relational communities should be from every tribe, tongue, and nation. Race and language should not be a barrier. We should spur each other on to be more like Jesus. True communal repentance and a hatred for sin will be displayed in our relationships. The day Christ returns, there will be no more need for repentance. Sin will be defeated. Relationships will be restored. All will be perfect, once again. Until then, I pray that our small little group that meets on Monday nights will continue to paint a picture of what the New Heavens and New Earth will be like. We have many different ethnicities already: White/Caucasian, Thai, and Mong. But this is only a reflection of what it will be like. It will truly be every tribe, tongue, and nation.
May our relationships be Gospel-Centered, and may we begin to develop authentic communities that reflect a proper understanding of what it will be like—when all the ransomed church of God be saved to sin no more.
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